To get help click here: Couples Therapy
To learn more click here: About Couples Therapy
For non-traditional families and couples see: Relationship Counseling Page
Couples and Family Therapy offers a safe place where each person can be heard, first by the therapist, and ultimately by each other. This type of therapy tends to be more efficient than individual therapy because you get to work through your relationship issues together, as a team. It helps to clarify the issues. Sometimes the therapist acts as a translator, but not as a referee. It helps to start by exploring the strengths of the relationship, and what makes for positive mutual experiences.
Sometimes understanding the history of the problem in your relationship and the histories that each individual brings to the relationship can help to uncover familial patterns that may be repeating themselves through the generations. When this is the case, We can use a genogram- an emotional family tree of interactional patterns - to help you understand where some basic assumptions and communication styles may come from. Understanding this will help you see each other more accurately, with less intrusion from past relationships. You may begin to remember what drew you to each other, and what you have to offer each other over the long run.
Relationships can bring out the best and the worst in us, cause us heartbreak and ecstasy. Our romantic relationships, be they heterosexual or gay, within or outside of the institution of marriage, intimate, distant, or from afar, effect all other aspects of our lives. So too do our relationships with other family members. They are too important to treat lightly. When problems arise, the earlier the intervention, the easier it is to get back on course.
For a description of Couples and Family Therapy Approaches see: Family Therapy Page
10 MYTHS ABOUT "HAPPY COUPLES"
Arguing = trouble.
For more on this see:
Myths and Truths about "Happy Couples"
been providing therapy for couples and families for the past 22 years
and training professional therapists for the past 20 years.
relocated to New Zealand after receiving her Ph.D in Humanities with a
specialisation in trauma psychology, and has just been registered with the New
Zealand Psychologists Board. Clients describe her as gentle and compassionate in a strong
way, tempered by an easy sense of humor. She helps you and your loved one/s
become more conscious of yourselves and each other's interactional patterns, and
offers support and advocacy as you learn to live with greater awareness of
yourself, each other and the world. She integrates
Therapy, which incorporates somatic awareness work ,teaching bodily
mindfulness and empathy with self and other,
Judy Lightstone, LMFT, Ph.D, M.S., M.A., NZ Registered Psychologist
Office near buses and Train