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Marriage and Family Therapy You can work on your relationship/s to others in individual counselling, but it is faster to come as a couple or family/group to work through issues in the relationship/s together. I offer a safe place where each person can be heard by me, and ultimately by the other. I help to clarify the issues, and sometimes I act as a translator, but I do not referee. It helps to start by exploring the strengths of the relationship, and what makes for positive mutual experiences. Sometimes understanding the history of the problem in your relationship and the histories that each individual brings to the relationship helps to uncover familial patterns that may be repeating themselves unconsciously. Sometimes I will help you to draw a genogram- a family tree of interactional patterns, to help you understand where some basic assumptions and communication styles may come from. As you start to see each other more clearly, simpler forms of relating start to take place. You may remember what drew you to each other, and what you have to offer each other, as you grow old together.  Link to: Family Therapy Page, Relationship Issues

1. Arguing = trouble.
2. Distance = trouble.
3. Opposites attract.
4. Flattery will get you nowhere.
5. You have to agree on the BIG issues (like children, sex and money).
6. People divorce because they “grow apart”.
7. Couples divorce because they get older and change physically.
8. The more sex the better.
9.  A fat woman will lose her man.
10. Men and women have to be equal in a good marriage.

Relationship Issues   As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) I am uniquely trained to help people deal with their relationships (or lack of) both in individual therapy and in couples or family therapy. Training and experience in conflict resolution has helped me to intervene in relationships in trouble that are friendship or work based as well. Relationships can bring out the best and the worst in us, cause us heartbreak and ecstasy.  Our romantic relationships, be they heterosexual or gay, within or outside of the institution of marriage, intimate, distant, or from afar, effect all other aspects of our lives.  So too do our relationships with other family members.  They are too important to treat lightly.  Link to: Family Therapy Page